Sunday, August 22, 2010

Realizations of Relationships and Otherwise

It has been a little while and I have taken a little time away to think about a few things going on in my life.  One thought I have been referencing back to over and over again the last couple of weeks is around relationships.  It began with one of my best friends getting married in Ohio a couple of weeks ago.  She was the first friend from back home that I had attended a wedding for since leaving Tennessee and it somewhat became surreal.  I am in a stage of life I have found where people are grown-ups....kind of.  Everyone around me is going isn't it so odd that persons X and Y are getting married?!  The reality is after this phase will be the baby phase and I'm sure many others that will surprise us all when they come as well. 

I by no means feel like a relationship expert, but today in church we touched upon things that we ultimately worship that consumes our mind other than God.  As I am sitting there I realize that relationships in general is what I worship or crave.  Making sure that my friends and family are taken care of and that I am truly invested in them is honestly what I live for sometimes.  That's not to also say that dating isn't in that bucket as well.  In just looking at the foundation of this, I wonder is that really what life is all about.  Is it healthy to consume your thoughts and actions around people.  I would hope that through out my lifetime I impact people positively and can say I had significant relationships with people.  I also realized though that we are human.  I know big revelation right?  I know Chelsea; I am a human.  What I'm trying to say is that people are a risky investment.  All of this time is spent on people that will no doubt go through phases and change with time.  I suppose I have no control no matter how much time I spend, because there is always a chance that someone will take action without my control.  I don't know where this all leaves me except I continue to ponder about it and felt like sharing.  It may be a bunch of nonsense, but in my head it all works itself out. 

Now I'm out like a light y'all!  Goodnight!

1 comment:

  1. Taking the assumption that life is about maximizing happiness/fulfillment, and that humans are inherently social creatures, any productive achievement must be measured by its impact on others.

    However, it's important to take a somewhat selfish view on the sort of relationship investment you explain: listening to your friend's relationship troubles and mentoring a younger acquaintance may differ significantly in how much "value" you derive from them, resulting from the amount of value others derive from your actions. In short, focusing on long-term, value-generating experiences, projects, and relationships is what I have determined to lead most directly to a general sense of fulfillment.